How couples from Tulsa, Oklahoma are making marriages last for a lifetime after the wedding.
It is very important to know from a young age what a good marriage and family that last a lifetime looks like. For a child to grow up understanding the sacredness and value of a marriage union is imperative in a world where people don’t want responsibility and don’t care about relationships enough. One needs to grow up loving to serve and be a part of family, and enjoy sacrificing for another’s happiness as much as they do about their own comforts. People need to know the characteristics and what is the best tone of a successful family and home. Know how one shows honor for each other and how to build faith and trust in each other. A successful marriage starts 20 years before the wedding in growing up and understanding what constitutes a happy home.
What attitudes will help one’s marriage last a lifetime after the wedding?
Another way to begin a happy marriage 20 years before the wedding is to guard one’s heart and your kids’ hearts at a young age. The Bible says, “do not awaken love before it’s time”, and that is for a very good reason. In today’s world, children are sexualized by marketing them with the intent to promote the lust and desires of the flesh to sale goods; but you as parents can protect from them by controlling what goes on in your home and teaching them truth so that this type of propaganda doesn’t have a chance to influence them in your home. It’s important to have self-control in one’s own life and to help children understand, what good and evil is and how to think good thoughts which lead to strong integrity and excellent character. Always running after impulses, trying to look better, or wishing for the next thing shows a nervous discontentedness in one’s own life. This shows how selfishness, pride, and impressing others replaces love, concern for others, and contentment. Nobody benefits from adults and children who are living to appeal to the desires of the flesh; and parents who are permissively allowing kids to do whatever comes to their mind. These things will not prepare them for a happy marriage no matter how innocent it seems.
Protect your children’s hearts for a better marriage in their future
Appoint someone responsible to be the authority over your children if you are not available. Each person needs to learn to live happily under authority because its a part of life that every age must face. Dr. James Dobson, a children’s psychologist, says that when kids are left on their own, or even are taken care by teens, and begin to date at a very young age, they are at a higher risk of being abused. This statement is backed up with the facts and statistics of patients who seek for psychological help later. Because teenagers are at an age of so much growth and change, it’s hard for them to make wise choices, and being left in uncontrolled situations will make them and those youngsters around them even more vulnerable to being harmed and ignorantly involved in situations that will affect their future ability to love and trust their lifetime soul mate.
Falling in love is good but growing in love is better
The damage done is like Dr. James Dobson illustrates in gluing together two pieces of paper hearts, then taking them apart in about a month. When you look at both and see that the hearts are ripped apart, and some pieces of each heart are permanently stuck to the other heart they were glued with. Each heart you glue it to, represents every person you get involved with in a romantic relationship. If one of those hearts is yours, and after dating around, how much of your own heart do you have left by the time you get married? How much of your heart is available to trust and love the person you marry? Statistics show that 50 percent of those who marry get divorced; and of those who had previous premarital sex relationships, 80 percent of them committed adultery because of their inability to stay faithful since they somehow trained their hearts to stick and break apart repeatedly. I personally ask my children, how much of yourself are you willing to save for the love of your life? Moreover, how do you want your future spouse to save for you?
What other things will help one’s marriage last a lifetime after the wedding?
Purity matters, God´s designs and his commandments are meant for one’s good. Humanity’s disobedience to God’s commandments, has always led to harm, not only ourselves but others as well resulting in years of regret and shame. You may be thinking, ‘oh well, it’s too late for me. I have made all these painful choices, and here I am planning a wedding and starting a marriage that seems to be set for failure’. My friend, please stay with me, because I am here to tell you that there is restoration, hope, and healing for you. Your heart can be put together in a whole new beautiful piece and be ready to stick to your soon to be spouse´s heart for the rest of your life. The miracle of rebirth will renew one and prepare them to stick together during the good times, in health, in sickness, in poverty, and all of life’s upheavals.
Today one can begin a new life together with the one who created you soul mates
Here lies the answer. You are here today, because your Creator planned this day for you to come to Him. “In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth . . .” and all else that you needed. He made everything that you needed to make life beautifully and amazing for you. He is love, wisdom, and perfection! But he created man with a choice to do things either in His plan or in one’s own way. When one disobeys it is called sin which separates one from God’s presence. Therefore, He sent His son Jesus to take the punishment of our sins by his death on the cross. Three days later He arose from the dead to give eternal life to those who believe in Him as their Lord and Savior. When one repents of their past sins, He will forgive them and make them a new creature.
You may be thinking, but how does that fix me? Well, that is a fair question. The scriptures teach us that “Without repentance there is no remission of sins” and another sways “Ye must be born again” John 3. Moreover, remember the Lord´s prayer in Matthew 6:9-13 …and there is a portion that says, “forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Honestly this new and forever story of LOVE that you are about to begin, needs all the forgiveness you can give and receive. Alex Campo´s song states a very deep truth: “… without forgiveness there is no eternal love”. Just as Christ sacrificed his life so that one can be forgiven and renewed so He also gives us the power to forgive those who we live closest to.
Additional habits that will help one’s marriage last a lifetime after the wedding?
Another thing is that each one needs to recognize the need to give the other one encouragement and affirmation for their role in the marriage. Most men feel inadequate to be leaders and think that their wives are better able to guide the family than they. The role of a spouse is very crucial because one can be their greatest inspiration or their biggest discouragement. Every great husband has a very important support under him, that is his wife. Men need the good things they do to be acknowledged by her. If you want your husband to be a caring leader for the family, then the wife must be a patient encourager. By being a joyful companion and an attentive listener, one is giving the other constant awareness of their importance.
Forgiveness and understanding are keys to grow in love
By having an understanding and a forgiving heart one won’t be as vulnerable to emotional injuries. A mind that thinks their spouse is judging, criticizing, and blaming them will often spout off words that break the love flow. The wisdom in the scriptures is worth considering. Pro_13:3 says, “He that keeps his mouth keeps his life:” In Pro 21:23 it says “Whoso keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from troubles “ In Pro 15:1 it says “A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger”. In the book I Peter 3:10 it says, “For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: “If one does say unloving words that cut off the closeness, be quick to recognize your faults and ask forgiveness. Make a habit of giving words that will encourage, comfort, inspire and edify during the good times when there is no tension, then when an upheaval comes along one can endure quietly. Our words have a lot of power, and they can inflict deep wounds or be like a fresh cool drink. We need so badly to speak and hear pleasant, encouraging, healing, and hopeful words. Bless your spouse by asking God for divine favor for them that will gladden and make them happy.
Be encouraged my friend, and please know that here at Bella Rosa Venue in Tulsa, Oklahoma, we are here to support your marriage and pray with you. We are here for you, not only for your wedding day, but want to support your newly established family for the long run.
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