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Homemaking Bootcamp will be held April 5th from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. at a Bella Rosa Venue near Tulsa, OK

Homemaking Bootcamp will be held April 5th from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. at a Bella Rosa Venue near Tulsa, OK

What does it take to manage a happy home after the wedding?


Our homes are meant to be places of security and warmth for our families. In the beginning it only took 2 to make a family. The children are a result of love and a fringe benefit to the couple. If one doesn’t have children you still became a family when you went from engagement to saying your vows at the wedding ceremony. Your own home reflects God’s nature. It is a space where honor is given to you and your husband who are in authority over the place. A clean and welcoming home goes a long ways towards keeping the happy couple in love and thriving.

Mr & Mrs. sign at Groom and Brides table in front of windows at Bella Rosa Sapulpa, OK
Photographer: Brenna Davis Photography of Stroud OK

The High and Prestigious Calling of Women in her Home

God has given women a unique strength and calling to guide and manage the home. However, the spirit of the world often discourages her important role and devalues homemaking as the first priority, leading many to overlook its benefits. Your home is a central place where your family learns, shares, rests, works, creates, worships, gathers for shared meals etc. One’s home even can be a place to reach out from to help others who haven’t been taught about the value of homemaking.
Jesus Himself carried out much of His ministry in homes, demonstrating their significance. Our homes should reflect His character and be: • Holy • Forgiving • Pure • Orderly • Clean • Purposeful • Wonderful • Honorable • Royal

The Spirit of Excellence
Daniel 5:12 speaks of Daniel having an excellent spirit. Excellence is more about attitude than mere action. Perfectionism often leads to frustration, discouragement, and unfinished projects but true excellence is found in: Doing all things with love and treating others in your home with respect.

Vows at the cross in Bella Rosa Venue's outdoor ceremony site with skyline views near Tulsa, OK
Bella Rosa outdoor Venue, near Tulsa, OK Photographer: Tiffany Alexander


• Honoring God by caring for your home and family. 1Timothy 5:14  “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
Excellence is not a one-time effort but a habit. Declare an excellent spirit over your life and strive to cultivate the best gifts. As 1 Corinthians 12:31 says, “But covet earnestly the best gifts: and yet shew I unto you a more excellent way.” 1Co 13:13 “And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.“ Love conquers all because God is love, and His love will empower every woman to manage her home with joy and success.

This couple is greeted by 150 friends at the wedding near Tulsa, OK
Photographer: Ashley Waters Media of Tulsa, OK

Mindset and Emotional well-Being
Self-pity is the first step toward anxiety which leads to depression. In a world where impressing people outside the home and careers take preeminence over the value of the people in one’s home, it’s easy to feel like there is no reward. Yes, there are no year end banquets to give homemakers awards for a job well done. There are no races or competitions to prove you are doing an excellent job. But it is a daily investment in your family, your future, and your family’s spiritual and mental stability. You will be rewarded in time to come.
Gratitude is the key to fighting against anxiety and depression. Walk outside and admire a piece of nature, look up to the sky and feel the power of someone bigger than you helping you and guiding you through life’s perplexities. Find one of God’s blessings to be grateful for.
Many people struggle with knowing how to fill the “blanks” in their lives. The key lies in cultivating an excellent spirit.


couple saying their vows to one another in marriage ceremony near Tulsa, OK
Photo credits: Ashley Waters Media

Marriage that Trust

A marriage built on trust and security is a great blessing well worth working for. It is not something that comes naturally. Trust is something that has to be worked at and security is something that God can provide for each of you to be able to believe and trust each other especially when life throws troubles at the marriage. Trust fosters empowerment, happiness, and peace. However, it must not be taken for granted or harmed through:
• Harsh, critical words.
• Worrisome, anxious communication.
• A lack of appreciation for one another.
Instead, cultivate a spirit of love, patience, and understanding in your marriage even in the face of misunderstandings and critical thoughts. Have faith and make your home a happy place for you both to enjoy together. God is a companion to each of us and we can take our needs and desires to him into our secret prayer closets and one can tell God every negative thing that is going on. Then keep quiet and watch God work. Visit that place often till a major change is made. You will find God can change a mans attitude as well as one’s own

After the I do’s have been said, there is a lot of living to make a house a home, that you both can thrive in, grow personally, emotionally, educationally, physically, and spiritually.

Celebrating after wedding near Tulsa OK with bent back kiss
Tulsa wedding venue Kiss – Photographer: Cole Gallaway

Advice for Women in Their Twenties beginning a home of their own.

  1. Respect Your Husband by Honoring Finances
    o Agree on a budget together.
    o Make decisions that bring mutual happiness.
    o Remember, your husband is human. Lean on God first and treat your husband with deep respect.
  2. Be a Leader for meaningful causes in Your Home: whether you need to improve it by giving it a fresh coat of paint, building a flower bed, or a neighbor needs assistance, It’s always right to do right and make life better.
    o 1Ti_5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
    o Follow truth and seek God’s will for family decisions. You will avoid many pitfalls and wasted time and money by paying attention to what God says in his word and praying about everything.
    o If you desire to help others, be kind and patient with your husband, he will follow and support what you love to do, if you do it with an honorable attitude.
  3. Cultivate Contentment
    o Gratitude and humility are powerful traits that should always be nurtured in your home. When you two walk into your home, it should welcome you. Make a nice place to put your bags and unload your day. When you walk into the kitchen it should be clean and neat and ready for you to enjoy making dinner. You must always clean the kitchen after dinner so that it feels welcoming to you the next day.
    o A contented heart brings peace to a home. Before you go to bed push a load of laundry through if you need to, so that clean clothes and towels are always available. Wash your sheets once a week to keep your bed fresh and comfortable. Keep clothes organized and put away in closet and drawers. Keep your office organized and don’t neglect your bills. They say a stitch in time saves nine. This means, that when you stay ahead of your game you can save yourself a lot of work, worry, and money.
  4. Know Your Needs and Responsibilities
    o Be diligent in managing your home and resources Proverbs 27:23 “Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks and look well to thy herds”.
    o Take care of what you own—avoid unnecessary fees, fines, and waste.
    o Use what you have wisely; be creative and resourceful with what you already have.
    o Invest in meaningful experiences and home improvements rather than expensive trendy whims that quickly lose their value.
    o Understand your family’s needs and fulfill your responsibilities toward them with diligence.
  5. “Dost thou love life then do not squander time because that is what life is made of” Ben Franklin. Use alerts, timers or what ever you like to keep you aware of passing time and how much is left before you must move on to your next task. When you feel lethargic and hopeless because things have gotten out of control, just get moving and soon you will be encouraged to do more.
  6. Make your home a place that you control instead of letting it control you?
  7. Yearly, take 3 bags (Give away, Throw away, and Put away bags). Take the time to go into every room and closet and go through what you have. You can use storage boxes to group items alike that are not used often.
  8. By using a timer speed clean uninterrupted for 30 minutes a day
  9. Plan ahead by: a) Keep on going and changing lists on your phone of reminders and things that you need to do or buy, b) group like activities together to save time, c) plan ahead for everything you do by thinking through the steps as if you were there and catching things you need to pre-prep so it all falls into place when you are there.
  10. Take control of the papers by making decisions as they come in. Set up filing systems for your entire family, so they can keep up with their own papers. At the start, young kids can learn to file their own papers in their own file box and as they get older and have more notes, pictures, report cards, insurance papers etc. they learn confidence and will be used to filing and finding what they need. Take pictures of kids art and file with a digital picture site, file the important papers, pay attention to pay the bills, put records to be filed, and items to be processed on your desk, and throw the rest away.
  11. Use your own personal body clock to work harder tasks at certain times. Save the more relaxing work like writing notes, paying bills and filing when you are resting.
  12. Organize each person’s life from the front door to their room where they have a certain place to put keys, bags, school stuff, clothes, shoes, and make certain everything has an easy place to be stored. If you have too much stuff stop buying more, be resourceful with what you have, clean out what you don’t use and give it away, and keep throwing away trash.
invitation to Tulsa wedding venue hosting homemaking classes for brides
Invitation to one day of Homemaking classes

Final Encouragement
Do not entrust your home to others—know its condition and manage it well. Proverbs 27:23 “Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks and look well to thy herds.” This verse can apply to your home too. There is no one who can manage your home like you, the wife, can. You can have the ability to do so much more than someone else. No one knows your husband and children like you do. You have a way to come along side them and help them grow.
Take ownership of your home, your responsibilities, and your well-being. With an excellent spirit, a heart full of gratitude, and trust in God, your home will become a reflection of His goodness and grace which will make it a place for you and your family to thrive and weather the storms that life brings with peace and patience.

This article is written by Tricia Bell owner of Bella Rosa Venue where we support marriages and love to give our couples the best day of their life on their wedding day.

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