Now that you are engaged. What to do in the next 30 days?
Now that you’re engaged! What comes next? Whether you have only been dating for a short time or many years, during the first 30 days after engagement, couples experience a lot of emotions sharing the news with friends and close family, and how to reply to all the many questions and congratulations. So take a few days to savor the engagement and think about how you want to share the exciting news, and as you share the news, be ready to answer these questions: How did he propose? When is the date? Where will you live? Do you want a big family? After all, this is a pivotal time in your life as you transition from dating to planning a wedding together. If it’s been a long road to get to this point in your relationship, you are relieved to finally have the opportunity to move forward so enjoy it and get ready to make a lot of decisions. Families are wonderful. Nurture your relationships with your family because as you establish your own you will need their love and support to be strong.
Will you have an engagement party, or will you call them individually? Your family and friends will want to know all the details, especially how the proposal was made. They will be eager to share in your excitement and congratulate you, so prepare for a wonderful time to learn about the other family and to learn more about and understand your fiancée better. Take some engagement pictures, celebrate, and spend time communicating and learning more about your mate’s likes and dislikes and how one thinks and process different situations and decisions.
In this blog, I will share with you what to do soon after getting engaged so that you can enjoy this beautiful journey. Will it take place in the Spring, Summer, Fall or Winter? Think about the logistics and your dreams and desires for snow, flowers blooming tulips or zinnias, outdoor ceremony, or fall colors.
After you decide the season, find and make note of some Wedding Dates that may potentially work for both of your families
While you don’t need to have an exact date immediately, having an idea of when you would like to get married can help with the initial planning stages and answer the big question people will have when you announce your engagement. Will it be this year or next year? What time of the year: Spring, Summer, Fall, or Winter will it be? And finally, the exact day. If it’s a popular or catchy date like 10/24/2024, or 05/25/2025, make sure to start planning early; moreover, the dates that are on holiday weekends like memorial day, July 4th, labor day, Christmas and Easter or weekends around Spring break will be in greater demand. The length of your engagement will impact the wedding planning phases and how much time you must have to make decisions. A very short engagement time may lead to a small elopement or planning a very simple wedding. A longer engagement time allows more time to plan and develop your dream wedding. Having a list of your preferred dates when you shop for a venue, will help because beautiful venues book up way in advance.
Discuss and Decide the Wedding Budget
Money discussions are necessary when planning a wedding. Your vision must be expressed with your fiancée and decisions made with all the people who are paying for the wedding. You want to keep open communication with your partner because the budget decision will help guide you with all the other wedding decisions from the venue to how many guests you will invite. Moreover, set aside a cushion fund for those unexpected changes or new priorities that may cost more than you expected. Try to be open to compromises to keep the expenses inside the decided amount.
Ask family members from both sides to help you start a Guest List
A preliminary guest list, Will give you an idea of the size of the venue needed. The initial list doesn’t have to be final, but this list will help you in selecting the venue and making many other decisions. Never invite more guests than your venue can accommodate. Creating a guest list can be simplified by asking several people to find the addresses of their circle of friends or family and giving them a deadline date. Be sure and ask for e mail addresses also so that reminders and save-the-date notices can be sent digitally. Moreover, venues are beginning to ask that guest rsvp on their site.
Look for Wedding Venues in your area
If you have a short engagement period or selected a date that is in the prime wedding season, you may need to have your wedding on a Thursday or a Friday because venues book up weekend weddings quickly. If it’s a destination wedding, those discussions would have happened during budget discussions as not only would you need to budget for the wedding day, but also budget for travel and accommodations. Visit several venues in your preferred area keeping in mind what your budget allows. Do you envision a farm wedding, an outdoor wedding, or an indoor wedding with big tall windows of picturesque skyline views, a mountain retreat, or a glamourous ballroom? Research the venues websites and look at their landscape and check out the rooms: the kitchen, the dressing rooms, the ceremony and reception rooms before you go visit in person. Once you have narrowed down the top 3, make appointments to visit those venues that made the list. After you decide on the venue and reserve the date, all other decisions and selections will be a lot easier. Ask the venue manager for their preferred vendor list and begin to make calls and ask for quotes as you choose your team of partners to execute your wedding dreams smoothly.
Pick your wedding party
Whether you only have a best man and a maid of honor or a team of 12 attendants, choose not only the friends that you have had in the past, but think about those who will be your long term close friends and family in the future. Be open to a bachelorette party or a special trip with your team to celebrate your wedding plans. When choosing formal attire for your wedding party, contact Bella Rosa Venue for a convenient and streamlined fitting for men will be in their own home where suits and accessories, shoes, shirts, etc. will be delivered for groom and groomsmen no matter where they are across the US.
Register for Shower and Wedding Gifts
Begin a list of essential kitchen tools, yard tools, and your house hold color palette for decorations because people will be planning to purchase gifts to help you furnish your new home. Register with stores that have the quality of tools you desire. You can register on Hobby Lobby, Amazon or find a Pampered Chef consultant, Dillards, Target, Williams Somona or Lowe’s
Research and Book Vendors
When it comes to booking wedding vendors, it’s essential to not rush into any decisions. When choosing a caterer, most restaurants that cater for weddings will give the couple a free tasting meal. Select 3-5 and then make a reservation before you go with the restaurant to sample their meal catering options. When you select any vendor make sure they understand your vision and can also work within your budget. Wedding vendors as photographers, videographers, florist, and dress personnel are the nuts and bolts to ensure your day is ultra-memorable and everything runs smoothly. Therefore, make sure they’re a team of people that you really feel comfortable with. They should have a good sense of your vision, and you should be able to trust them to do their job well. We are a locally owned venue, contact us here at Bella Rosa Venue and we will send you more information on our wedding packages.
Next Steps
After the first 30 days being engaged, you have laid the foundation for a fantastic wedding plan. You have a vision and a direction for making your wedding dreams a reality! As you continue planning your dream wedding, remember to prioritize the decisions you have already made so you don’t waste time flip flopping back and forth. Keep open communication with your fiancée, because you are a team and are planning one of the most important days of the beginning of your lives together as a married couple. If you need help with planning your perfect wedding day, we can help with finding people to take care of mens and little boys suits, dresses, hair, makeup, photographer, videographer, florist, caterer.
Feeling overwhelmed? Our team of experts is here to help! Contact us to book a consultation to plan your Sapulpa, Oklahoma wedding at Bella Rosa Venue to be a memory you will enjoy for a lifetime.
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